Polyamory

  Well, polyamory, hey!  This is what the industry refers to as ggb (girl-girl-boy), or bbg (boy-boy-girl), and it has been a staple in adult films for decades.  But now the real world is catching up. No one can criticize Willow Smith for making a perfectly valid lifestyle choice.  She doesn’t like having sex as…

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Stories like this have the effect of portraying the Mormon Church as some kind of moral dinosaur.  The story is a bit more complicated than that. Natasha Helfer was much criticized within the Latter Day Saints for espousing  positions that were directly in conflict with Church teachings, such as okaying masturbation for her clients, or…

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  There’s a feeling of portentous solemnity that hangs over this Yahoo Life piece like a shroud.  “Antiquated gender-specific and belittling,”  referring to vibrators as “toys.”  Really? Of course, the Facebook posture is even worse.  They won’t promote “sexual pleasure,” as though that were comparable to ageism or sizeism. C’mon, people.  Sex is about fun. …

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Congressman Matt Gaetz

I viewed the New York Times‘ report about Matt Gaetz’s sex scandal with mixed emotions.  On the one hand, I am glad to see the political career of Gaetz, a despicable figure and “Trump ally,” coming to an apparent end.  His toadying, pandering, and posturing on behalf of far-right-wing political fantasies are loathsome, and maybe his…

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teenagers

The CNN piece on sex addiction is actually quite well crafted, but doesn’t get at the real reason that psychiatry has persistently refused to characterize “sex addiction” as a disorder: namely, that every male between the ages of 15 and 25 would qualify for it.  It is like making “belching after meals” a disorder. To…

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spa

  According to NBC News, a suspect in the recent deadly spa shootings in Atlanta, Georgia claims he was motivated by a sex addiction. An abundance of political correctness has made even more baffling several aspects of this tragic story:  “Hate crime”?  Maybe the perpetrator hated Asians.  But it’s also possible that he hated massage-parlors,…

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female hygiene products

Full marks to the educators and parents who, according to an article in the Washington Post by Abigail Higgins, don’t want their teenage daughters to feel uneasy about their “vaginal health.”  But why would teenage girls and young women feel “uneasy” about this? Needless Anxiety About Vaginal Health Most guys don’t feel uneasy about their “penile…

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porn magazines

In the outpouring of obituaries following Larry Flynt’s death, one point has not been made: Flynt was once far ahead of the country.  And then the country outraced him. Hustler’s Working-Class Origins Flynt grew up in dirt-poor Kentucky and, after years in the Navy and at factory jobs, he carried within him the sentiments of…

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masturbation

  Sofia Barrett-Ibarria’s article for Vice, “How to Enjoy Masturbation,” raises a trivial concept. How to enjoy masturbation more is, in a sense, like asking “how to enjoy a five-mile run  more?”  Answer:  Wear earphones. The essential question is: what is the purpose of masturbation?  And the answer is: to extend the sexual imagination, and…

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