church

Should Candace Cameron Bure’s have posted a personal photo on her Instagram account? Certainly. There was no controversy here, and no apology was necessary. I’m pleased that none was given, either. Her television father, Bob Saget, agrees with me. There is something sweet about this photo of Ms. Bure and her husband with his hand…

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where do the legs go

It’s hard to tell who gives more awful sex advice: the media or the experts.   Much of the media’s depiction of sex seems directed at 14-year-olds, who can’t figure out where the legs go.  The experts seem completely hung up on making people feel good about themselves, which is not really the name of…

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Advice for the 1950s

Dr. Ruth Westheimer, who fled Germany in 1938 as an orphan of the Holocaust, is very much a child of the twentieth century.  But why is she answering viewers’ questions about sex in the age of the coronavirus on CNN? How is she still relevant? A Voice of the 1950s Dr. Ruth has made her…

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Prison

NXIVM sex cult leader Keith Raniere has been sentenced to 120 years in prison. That doesn’t surprise me. Wealthy young women tend to have a thing for sex and violence cults.  Keith Raniere would have been just another two-bit sex-cult leader if he hadn’t enticed Claire Bronfman, heiress of the famous Bronfman family, and India…

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Media Hothouse of Sanctimony

Joe Berkowitz’s prissy “Four Minute Read,” a Fast Company article called “I can’t believe we need to say this, but it’s never okay to masturbate during a work meeting,” unloads on Jeff Toobin as a kind of media-celebrity sex offender.  Berkowitz reminds us of the “unspoken precedent of never whipping your dick out during office hours.”…

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Big Beautiful Women Attract the Unhinged Aurora Snow’s Daily Beast piece, “Inside Porn’s Scary Death-Threat Epidemic: ‘You’re Always Looking Over Your Shoulder,’” is psychologically perceptive:  BBW (Big Beautiful Women) attract the unhinged.  There are lots of targets these days for the unhinged, from the Democratic candidates to the local high school.  But why would these marginalized…

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male virginity

Japan does stand out sexually in various ways but let’s not confuse oranges and apples.  There’s a difference between having sex and getting married.  The CBS News piece, “The cautionary tale of Japan’s ‘sex recession,’” explores Japan’s high “male virginity” rate.  But the explanations are all about how economically difficult it is to get married.…

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bisexual unbrella

A recent Yahoo article, “Bella Thorne reveals she’s pansexual: What does it mean,” raises an interesting issue about sexuality. It has changed during the past few years into a palette of choices, and it seems additional possibilities are cropping up all the time. What parades around under the “bisexual umbrella” can be a bit confusing,…

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Exciting News to Share My history of the adult entertainment industry has just been published, and the book is now available on Amazon. It’s the first serious history of the industry ever written, and my original idea was to call it, “A History of the Adult Entertainment Industry,” but then, my agent said,  “No, we’re not…

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ice cubes

ASMR Creates Vacant Head Space We need an art form for the internet.   Sitting and looking at a screen for a long time where nothing much happens creates a head space of its own.  Something has to fill that space.  One candidate is ASMR, Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. It doesn’t make much sense, but…

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